Surrender to the Universe

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I’ve noticed that things go much more smoothly when I give up control—when I allow them to happen instead of making them happen. Unfortunately, doing this takes hard work!

Although I feel I innately do this my need to be a perfectionist does take over! I suppose you could say I’m a bit of a control freak. Although I am planner and I am organised, a part of me also like to set caution to the wind and just let it go!  If that dinner with my husband is meant to happen, he can arrange it!  If I’m meant to go out with my friends, they will arrange something!  Or is this lack of control?

I could debate this forever, but there are three things I know for sure about trying to control things:

1. We try to control things because of what we think will happen if we don’t.

In other words, control is rooted in fear.

2. Control is also a result of being attached to a specific outcome—an outcome we’re sure is best for us, as if we always know what’s best.

When we trust that we’re okay no matter what circumstances come our way, we don’t need to micro-manage the universe. We let go. And we open ourselves to all sorts of wonderful possibilities that aren’t there when we’re attached to one “right” path.

3. The energy of surrender accomplishes much more than the energy of control.

I suspect it’s slightly different for everyone, but here’s what control mode looks and feels like for me: My vision gets very narrow and focused, my breath is shallow, adrenaline is pumping and my heart rate increases.

My mind shifts from topic to topic and from past to future very quickly, and I have little concentration, poor memory, and almost no present-moment awareness.

In surrender mode, I’m calm, peaceful. Breathing deeply, present in the moment. I see clearly and my vision extends out around me, allowing me to (literally) see the bigger picture.

So the great irony is that attempting to control things actually feels less in control. When I’m micro-managing and obsessing over details, I know I’m in my own way.  I need to get out of my own way!

The Art of Surrender

Surrender literally means to stop fighting. Stop fighting with yourself. Stop fighting the universe and the natural flow of things. Stop resisting and pushing against reality.

Surrender = Complete acceptance of what is + Faith that all is well, even without my input. 

It’s not about inaction. It’s about taking action from that place of surrender energy.

If letting go of control and surrendering not only feel better, but actually produce better results, then how do we do that?

Sometimes it’s as easy as noticing that you’re in control mode and choosing to let go—consciously and deliberately shifting into surrender energy.

For example, when I become aware that I’m in control mode, I imagine I am sat in my serene place in my imagination, a forest dappled with sunshine.  In my minds eye I see a basket glowing from within.  I imagine the story that I am needing to control, the reason I feel like this, and I embrace it, I go through all the emotions I feel surrounding my reason, and truly let myself feel it.  Then I imagine putting that reason for my controlling behaviour into the basket.  Then I imagine a beautiful angel appearing behind me and gently touching my back for reassurance. Immediately I feel peace!  The angel then picks up the basket and flies away with my negative energy, turning around and waving goodbye.  I sit there and imagine the release I feel, the peace and tranquility.  Then when I am ready I open my eyes and stretch my arms!

I also say this:

I am determined to see with love, I surrender this story and let the universe do her thing!

This is a practise that takes time, it doesn’t just happen the first time you do it!  You have to keep practising it, and believe me, it will make an invaluable difference in your life!

Sometimes it’s a little harder to make the shift from control to surrender. Here are a few questions that can help:

1. What am I afraid will happen if I let go of control?

When you pinpoint the fear, question its validity. Ask yourself, Is it true? If you’re afraid the  your boyfriend doesn’t really love you, question that assumption.

Can you really know the he doesn’t love? Or is that more to do with you and your fear? And at the end of the day, what’s so bad about that? You would survive! And actually if you send out to hime uncertainty about his love, he may go the other way!  See?

2. Find out whose business you’re in.

Your business is the realm of things that you can directly influence. Are you there? Or are you in someone else’s business? When we’re trying to control things outside of our own business, it’s not going to go well.

3. Consider this: Would letting go feel like freedom?

It almost always would. Let that feeling of freedom guide you toward loosening your grip.

A Friendly Universe

Einstein said, “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

I believe in a friendly universe.

Being receptive and allowing things to happen is a skill that can be practiced and improved upon. It helps to believe in a friendly universe—one that is supporting you at every turn so that you don’t have to worry yourself over the details.

We can always choose to do things the easy way or the hard way. We can muscle through, or we can let go of the oars and let the current carry us downstream.

There is a peaceful, yet focused energy that accompanies holding the intention of what I want, but not forcing myself to do it. That energy is magic. I’m still a work in progress, but I’m allowing it to become a habit instead of making it a habit.

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